The Pope comments on family's primary role in children's education and faith formation...

(Brendan)

Awesome comments from Pope Benedict XVI yesterday during his weekly Wednesday public audience. The Pope has been reflecting on the contributions of St. Jerome to the Christian faith, especially in regard to Holy Scripture. St. Jerome also had lots to say about the family's primacy in forming their children. St. Jerome highlights the fact that it is our job as parents to teach the faith to our children (i.e. it is not primarily the Church's job... dropping children off at weekly CCD classes at the parish and expecting that to be their sole formation in the faith doesn't cut it).

Here is the Pope's address yesterday:

Pontiff Extols Jerome's Biblical Insights

Comments on the Scholar's Many Lessons

VATICAN CITY, NOV. 14, 2007 (Zenit.org).- St. Jerome left the Church many valuable lessons for everything from raising children to the importance of reading the Bible daily, says Benedict XVI.

The Pope said this today to the 25,000 people who had gathered in St. Peter's Square for the general audience. He drew heavily from the letters of the biblical exegete St. Jerome (347-419/420) to illustrate the many counsels the scholar gave.

The Holy Father said that in Jerome's writings, he "underlined the joy and importance of familiarizing oneself with the biblical texts." He cited one of the epistles of the scholar: "Don't you feel, here on earth, that you are already in the kingdom of heaven, just by living in these texts, meditating on them, and not seeking anything else?"

Jerome saw the Bible as the "catalyst and source of Christian life for all situations and for everyone," said the Holy Father. He further quoted teh biblical scholar, "The study and meditation of Scripture makes man wise and at peace."

"Certainly, to penetrate more deeply the word of God, a constant and increasing practice is necessary," said the Pope. He quoted Jerome who advised in a letter, "Read the divine Scriptures with much regularity; let the Holy Book never be laid down by your hands."

"Love sacred Scripture and wisdom shall love you; love it tenderly, and it will protect you; honor it and you shall receive its caresses," Jerome had written to a spiritual daughter. "Love the science of Scripture, and you shall not love the vices of the flesh," added the exegete.

In communion

Benedict XVI said that a basic principle used by Jerome to understand Scripture was to read it in the light of the Church's teachings: "Alone we are not able to read Scripture. We find too many closed doors and we are easily mistaken. The Bible was written by the people of God, for the people of God, with the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. Only in communion with the people of God can we truly enter the core of the truth that God intends to convey us."

The Pope said that for Jerome, "an authentic interpretation of the Bible always had to be in harmony with the faith of the Catholic Church. The book itself is the voice of the people of God in pilgrimage, and only in the faith of these people we find the right frame of mind to understand sacred Scripture."

The Pontiff said that Jerome thus warned, "Stay firmly attached to the traditional doctrine that has been taught to you, so that you can preach according to the right doctrine and refute those who contradict it."

Jerome also wrote of the importance of not only understanding Scripture, but also living it, said the Holy Father. He quoted Jerome who said, "Even when mastering a wonderful doctrine, he who is condemned by his own conscience will be shamed."

Benedict XVI also discussed Jerome's teaching on Christian asceticism: "He reminds us that a courageous engagement toward perfection requires a constant alertness, frequent mortifications, even if with moderation and caution, an assiduous intellectual or manual work to avoid idleness."

The Pope said that Jerome taught that above all is "obedience to God. ... That is the most outstanding and the sole virtue."

Education

"Finally, we have to mention Jerome's contribution to Christian pedagogy," said the Holy Father.

[Here's a copy of the Pope's full comments on this, my highlights are in bold - Brendan]

Above all, he urges parents to create an environment of serenity and joy around the children, to encourage them to study and work, also through praise and emulation (cf. Epp. 107,4 and 128,1), to encourage them to overcome difficulties, to nurture in them good habits and protect them from bad ones because -- here he quotes a phrase that Publilius Syrus had heard as a schoolboy -- "you will barely succeed to correct those things that you are getting used to do" (Ep. 107,8).

Parents are the primary educators for children, their first life teachers. Addressing himself to the mother of a girl and then turning to the father, Jerome warns, with much clarity, as if to express a fundamental requirement of every human creature who comes into existence: "May she find in you her teacher, and may her inexperienced childhood look at you with wonder. May she never see, neither in you nor in her father, any actions that, if imitated, could lead her to sin. Remember that ... you can educate her more with the example than with the word" (Ep. 107,9).

Among Jerome's main intuitions as a pedagogue we must underline the importance attributed to a healthy and complete education from infancy, as well as the special responsibility acknowledged as belonging to parents, the urgency of a serious moral and religious education, and the need of study for a more complete human formation.

Jerome was also a proponent for the education of women, said the Pope: "A vital aspect retained by the author but disregarded in ancient times is the promotion of the woman, to whom he acknowledges the right to a complete education: human, academic, religious, professional."

"We actually see today that the true condition to any progress, peace, reconciliation and exclusion of violence" said the Holy Father, "is the education of the person in its entirety and the education in responsibility before God and before man. Sacred Scripture offers us the guidance of education and of true humanism."

St. Jerome. Caravaggio, c. 1606.
St. Jerome, pray for us!

Review of new home architecture

(Brendan)

Well, this coming Sunday is the day when we meet with my brother to go over the revised home concept. So, there'll be nothing to post on that front until at least next week. In the mean time, I came across an article the New York Times highlighting some home designs of "larger" families (read: 3 or 4 kids, which is a shockingly large family to the secular world). I thought I would provide some commentary on a couple of the designs just for fun. They're both modern designs, but as I've said before on this blog when it comes to one's home I think there are lots of design options, including a modern feel.

Here's the first home: "With Patience, a Family of 6 Builds Up"

It is a family of 6 that lives in London and actually obtained the airspace rights over a building right in the city, on top of which they built their home. Definitely a unique situation. Here's some pics...
I think that for where they built their home, the structure is pleasing to the eye in that it makes good use of proportion and continues the footprint of the building upward. The vegetation that they have on the outer parts of the structure makes a good impression in that it looks like the home has "grown" on top of the building, and it softens the industrial feel of the rest of the building (as well as departs from the beige of the building).

Also for me, if there's three things I love in a well-designed building, it's light, light, and more light. Their home has so much light, it totally alters the mood inside and makes it bright and pleasant. This is one reason I still find myself attached to the idea of floor-to-ceiling windows. The family does note that for a while they felt like they were living in a fishbowl, but they got used to it.

A couple other pics...
This is their media room with, as they call it, a "conversation pit." This is a little weird for me. Those pillows are going to be a nightmare to continually have to place in their spot. In our family, the pillows would have all of 5 minutes before they were strewn all over that room. And I think it's odd to say, "hey, I'd like to have a conversation, let's go sit in the 'conversation pit'". Interesting idea though.

I had to show this last one, of the exterior walkways that surround the home. The mom says, "The children run around the terraces like they're in a hamster cage." Now this is madness. Again, look at the first pic above. This house IS ON TOP OF A BUILDING! Hmmm, do I really want my kids running around a terrace, inches from falling stories to their certain death? I think not. I had a vision of Aidan climbing over that fence there and shuddered.

All in all, I give this design a thumbs up. I like it, and I think it would be fun to live there.

Here's the second home, which is actually an addition to an existing home: "A Crowded Family Enters the Space Age"

It's a family of five (why that's a "crowded family" I'll never know) that added on to their home with a very different style addition. Here's some pics...
Alright, so I like the fact that again this home has a lot of light, and is very transparent. And I like the cantilevered stairway. But that's probably about it. The design is not to my taste in most respects. I'd rather not live in a space ship. But the real deal is the minimalism (which I would note was not the case with the last home in the truest sense of the term). No family lives like this, and I don't know any that would want to. See the area in front of the TV downstairs? There's two simple chairs, that's it. Do they live like that on a daily basis? I guarantee you no. If you have to run around arranging things in your home to enhance the minimalism just for a photo shoot, and then afterward you go back to the way you really live, then it's a fake design. No one walks into a perpetually empty room and says, "Oh, I see two solitary chairs over there, how about I go sit in one, and you can sit in the other, and we can talk to each other?" Families want to be comfortable, first, and then they'd like to have enough seating to have a family conversation, and they'd like a room that didn't totally ruin the "design intent" if it got a little messy.

All in all, I give this second design a thumbs down.

That's my family home architecture review for the week!

The Importance of Beauty in Church Architecture

(Brendan)

Here's a wonderful interview with architect Duncan Stroik (whom I've spoken about here, here, and here), previously published by the National Catholic Register. Definitely worth a read (whether for church or chapel design).

The Evidential Power of Architectural Beauty

A Conversation With Duncan Stroik

BY Joseph Pronechen

January 28- February 3, 2007 Issue | Posted 1/23/07 at 9:00 AM

Over the last decade, Duncan Stroik has become a premier architect of sacred edifices and a leader in the new renaissance of church architecture.

His ecclesiastical projects, completed or under way, span the country. Among his designs now taking shape is the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe in La Crosse, Wis. In Santa Paula, Calif., his plans for Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity Chapel at Thomas Aquinas College are being hailed as a model for others to follow.

He also helped design the curriculum in classical architecture at the University of Notre Dame, where he is a professor. The New York Times called the program “the Athens of the new movement.”

Stroik’s architectural firm is not far from the Notre Dame campus in South Bend, Ind. It’s online at stroikarchitect.com, and it was from there that he spoke with Register staff writer Joseph Pronechen.

What do you see as the general state of church architecture today?

Today we’re at an interesting time because, in general, many laity, pastors and even some architects are tired of ‘business as usual’ for the last 40 years. The ideas of modernism that seemed to be exciting and novel are no longer so fascinating. For many, the emperor has no clothes, and we realize that. I see more and more parishes trying to build traditional churches, and I see architects trying to design them. That’s a good thing. The reality is, we’re still far away from being at a high level of design that our forebears knew, but we’re coming out of the dark ages architecturally and artistically. But it’s a difficult thing to come out of and may take some time.

I believe that spiritual renewal is accompanied by an architectural and artistic renewal. The renewal of Catholic architecture is very important because our churches do teach. They speak to people and create a place where we worship God. You could think of the church building as a prayer — a prayer we build. What do our churches speak to us of? Do they speak that the universal Church is beautiful and permanent and inspiring — or that the universal Church is temporary and shoddy and casual?

What does traditional design have that modern design tends to lack?

Since our churches do speak to people, over time they’re one of the major ways we form Christian children, young adults, and adults. Churches can speak to them through iconography — a beautiful crucifix, images of the saints that tell us the saints are around us. The building helps us to pray.

Another way to look at it is the church building is the place that from earliest times we have dedicated to the reception of the sacraments. A sacramental church should be noble and beautiful and worthy of the seven sacraments, of these mysteries, these gifts from God.

Where some prefer an “uncluttered” worship environment, you talk a lot about designing for “beauty.” Why is that goal important?

Certainly when we’re talking about the house of God and building a temple to him, we try to give our best and give him the most beautiful possible because he’s worthy of that. It’s a response to his gifts to us.

Beauty speaks to people, to children, to the poor and to those who haven’t been catechized. Beauty can touch people in a deep and profound way at all times of the day and in all seasons.

How do you design Catholic churches to be architectural catechisms like they traditionally were?

There’s the universal elements — the altar, crucifix, Stations of the Cross — and the particular. In the shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Wisconsin, we have more than 25 stained-glass windows, and we set them up to be the life of the Virgin. With the help of Archbishop (Raymond) Burke, we came up with a number of things to layer on top of that. The windows are placed above the titles in Latin of Our Lady from the Litany of Loreto. Each relates to the window above. Below them are statues of saints.

Each level can be read on its own, but it can be read as a relation to the others. For example, the stained-glass window of the Incarnation shows the Madonna and Child. Below, from the Litany of Loreto, is Mater Purissima. And below that is the statue of the Immaculate Heart of Mary.

There has been debate about tabernacle placement. What is your opinion on that issue?

Two answers. First, in America, we have our tradition. In 400 years since Catholics came to the New World, tabernacles were prominent in the apse and part of the focus of the church. Second, in the Catholic tradition, there’s an evolution of the theology and worship of the Eucharist outside of Mass. By the time of the early Middle Ages and Renaissance, the tabernacle became more prominent and placed in the center. You look at all traditions of architecture, all different cultures and faiths: They put the important elements in the center of the building. In the king’s reception hall you put the throne. In the Congress building you put the podium for the speaker. In the Baptist church you put the pulpit.

So what’s important in the Catholic Church? It’s natural we put those things that are important — the altar, the tabernacle — in the center, as the focus of the church. As well as other things — the crucifix. If we truly believe that Christ is truly present in the Eucharistic species reserved in the tabernacle, we will put that in the greatest place of prominence in the church. That is in the apse, on the central axis. That, to me, is the general obvious solution. It doesn’t mean there aren’t occasions to do other things, but it’s the natural solution from our tradition if you think Christ is important.

How can churches on a more limited budget incorporate architectural beauty?

Today you can apply the same principles you’d apply in something grand in a smaller church or chapel. We’re working on St. Paul the Apostle Church in (Spartanburg), S.C. It’s a beautiful Romanesque church on a downtown site and it’s meant to be inspiring and beautiful on a fairly reasonable budget.

Another nice project is St. Therese Chapel.

It was a very functional daily Mass chapel for a large parish in Houston. The pastor wanted to improve it and make it inspiring, but without spending a lot of money. Working within the existing walls, we were able to transform the chapel. The parishioners say they now feel like they’re walking into heaven.

The Domestic Church: Encouraging Vocations

(Brendan)

Vocations are the lifeblood of the Church. The Church needs people to consistently respond to God's call to the vocation to the priesthood or religious life to flourish and fulfill its mission on earth to spread the Gospel and to be a conduit of God's grace for the salvation of souls. But, it's no secret that people willing to respond to this unique calling don't simply fall out of the sky, but require an environment suitable to fostering vocations. Even more importantly, someone who is willing to simply suggest that a young man would consider the vocation to the priesthood, or that a young man or woman consider the vocation to the religious life, is ultimately required.

There was a period in the second half of the last century where mothers and fathers often abandoned such conversations and encouragement with their own children, with some parents viewing vocations as a waste of potential, or not stopping to consider that it is they who are the primary teachers of their children in the faith and it is they who needed to openly encourage discernment of vocations in their children. This lack of encouragement in families, among other factors, played a large role in decreasing numbers of men entering the seminary to study for the priesthood, and decreasing numbers of women religious in formation. Thankfully, we are in the midst of, as John Paul II predicted, the "new springtime" of the Church, and this trend is being abruptly reversed (at least in the United States). Here is a great article (entitled "Filled to Overflowing") on the "problem" at the minor seminary in my own Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis; they can barely house all of the young men who have enrolled to discern the priesthood! Likewise, vocations to the religious life are increasing in some very faithful communities who practice the Faith with zeal, such as the Dominican Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist in Michigan (they're having a hard time keeping up with housing for all of their new postulants as well). This trend needs to be magnified, and the time is now for Catholic families to reclaim their role as the primary incubators of vocations, and that means parents need to step up.

Molly and I would love to see many vocations come out of our family. Ultimately that's up to God's calling for any one of our children, but we will make darn sure that any potential calling has a chance to reach one of our children with clarity. Through homeschooling and home educating in the Faith, explicit discussions of the beauty of the priesthood and religious life (and their necessity) will be frequent, just as discussions of the beauty of the sacrament of marriage (a vocation in itself) and the necessity of Godly marriages and families will be frequent. But this is really the tip of the iceberg of what really needs to be done. I found a site, randomly, which is maintained by the diocese of St. Petersburg, FL, and it is the BEST page on encouraging vocations in the family that I have ever seen. Every dicoese should have a page just like this on their website. It has a whole list of pointers on how vocations can be encouraged in family life.

Check it out here, and let's start fostering vocations in our families!

Some more interesting and similar home architecture

(Brendan)

Just a quick post to link to a new home in Minnesota that was selected as the Minneapolis Star Tribune AIA home of the month for November. The architect (Brian Anderson of SALA Architects) is described as having designed a "cluster of buildings", which is similar to our concepts. The design aesthetic is similar as well.

Here's the link to the slideshow.

Here's the link to the article.

I hope to post soon on our re-designed concept(s) for our home.

Oh, When the Saints Go Marching In...

(Molly)

We recently celebrated the Feast of All Saints. For the entire month of October, our family has been preparing for this special feast by studying the lives of several saints. It has been quite inspiring and often humorous to hear the kids retell various stories of these beloved Christians, now in heaven.

Clara's patron is, of course, Saint Clare of Assisi. We thought it would be a good idea for her to learn more about this amazing woman of God who loved the poor and gave all she had to serve them. We commissioned Brendan's sister, Allison, who currently works in the costume shop for the theater department of Catholic University, to make a Clara-sized St. Clare costume for her to don on the eve of the feast day. (Our parish has a gigantic All Saints' Party to replace Halloween festivities.) It was, of course, appropriate to also learn about the life of Saint Francis and find a costume for Aidan to wear so the two of them could be a team just like Francis and Clare. I found a wonderful website that features costumes for biblical and saintly characters (a BIG relief since I can't sew a stitch!) The Franciscan costume is perfect as Aidan could be Francis this year and in future years other children could wear it for other saints of the Franciscan order, namely Maximilian Kolbe!

We found lots of children's literature about Clare and Francis and I was quite impressed with what the kids picked up. Aidan, being a typical boy, loved to retell the story of the wolf of Gubbio and often yelled, "and the wolf had BIG TEETH!" The duo memorized a short poem written by Saint Francis:
"God came to my door and asked for charity and I fell on my knees and cried, 'Beloved, what may I give?' 'Just love," he said. 'Just love.'"

When the packages arrived on our doorstep the two of them put on their costumes and immediately started reenacting some of the stories they knew. Eleanor was to be a ladybug at the All Saints' party, so she, too, got into character and followed the kids around, barely able to move her head from side to side in her bulky costume. Not wanting to be left out, she would often run up to me and shout "I a wadybug!"

As I was preparing dinner early this week, Max was yelping in his saucer. Suddenly, his cries stopped and I looked to see what had happened. There were Clare and Francis, both hands laid on Max's head and a prayer of healing being uttered from their lips. (Not that Max was anything more than annoyed, but they knew that Clare and Francis had the gift of healing the sick.) Clare then turned and said, "C'mon, Saint Francis. Let's go back to Assisi." What a stitch!

The Eve of All Saints' finally arrived and after losing the girls in the procession into Mass we experienced once again the powerful prayers of those Christians who have gone before us. I always get a little teary during the Litany of the Saints. After Mass, we enjoyed hot dogs (Brendan, especially, as hot dogs are in his top three favorite meals, yuck) and popcorn with the others gathered for the festivities. We played a few games and took a hayride around the church grounds. On the way out, we collected our "one bag of candy per kid." I think next year I'll make our own family rule of "one bag of candy per family" as we have enough miniature candy bars to last us through the year.

I hope our readers will enjoy the photos!

Here we have Saint Clare of Assisi

Aidan would make a lovely Franciscan

And the famous duo: Francis and Clare

And here's our little ladybug

And here's the family (notice the ladybug dodging out of the photo)
Max was a little skunk and just a riot!
And no, that's not some scary mask. Brendan grew a goatee.

This will make your day...

(Brendan)

This link (below) is courtesy of a heads-up from Emily over at the Shrine of the Holy Whapping blog (and fellow parishioner of Church of St. Paul in Ham Lake, MN). The story was done by Jason Davis at KSTP Channel 5 News in the Twin Cities, who visited St. Aloysius in Olivia, MN after its recently completed restoration and renovation. It's an amazing parish, both in size and beauty, for such a small town, and it has an interesting history. More importantly, it has a pastor who is focused on what we should all be focused on in our church architecture, liturgy, and woship of God... excellence. Our Lord deserves nothing less than excellence in everything we do, and that includes church architecture. As John Paul II said, "Do not be afraid. Do not be satisfied with mediocrity. Put out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch."

Here's the link to this very inspiring story (the video is at the right of the page).

Only one disagreement with the current pastor, who says "We could never build this today." We can build churches like this today, it just takes fortitude, vision, and knowledge and respect for the architectural traditions of the Church.

Stations of the Cross can be included in any home

(Brendan)

You don't have to build a brand new home with a chapel, or even reconstruct your current home, to add beauty and sanctity to your home that will assist with family and individual prayer. The fourteen Stations of the Cross, one of the oldest methods of prayerfully contemplating the suffering of Christ in His passion and death, can be added in a hallway, a room, or even in landscaping or along a pathway outdoors. Instead of praying the Stations only during Lent, they can be a regular part of prayer all year and even be beautiful artwork for your home. If you would like more info on the Stations, here's a history of the Stations of the Cross (or "Way of the Cross"), and here's a good online version. Here's an article about the use of the Stations of the Cross in the domestic Church.

Stations of the Cross All Year

BY JOSEPH PRONECHEN

July 15-21, 2007 Issue | Posted 7/10/07 at 3:43 PM

The 14 Stations of the Cross are depicted in churches and shrines everywhere. They’re among the most popular Christian devotions. They help us make a spiritual pilgrimage, contemplating Christ’s passion as we hike along the Via Dolorosa in our hearts.

So why confine praying the Stations to the 40 days of Lent?

Families are discovering that observing this powerful devotion all year long — at home — can yield beautiful benefits for parents and children alike.

Just ask Greg and Tina Andress of Spartanburg, S.C. Earlier this year they cleared a trail through the woods on their property and installed outdoor Stations of the Cross.

First meant as a family project, the effort quickly drew in members and dads from the local ConQuest Catholic boys’ club that meets in the Andress home.

The Stations improved as they moved from idea to execution. Originally, Greg planned on using photos the family saw at Holy Hill, a Wisconsin Marian shrine. Then a neighbor donated icon-type Stations for the Andress’ trail. The ConQuest boys assembled the cedar and roof housings with their fathers’ help, then attached them to sturdy wooden poles.

The week before Good Friday, the family’s pastor at Jesus Our Risen Savior Church blessed the trail and Stations before everyone present prayed them for the first time.

“Now we’d like to continue to pray the Stations throughout the year to keep what Christ did for us in our children’s minds,” says Tina. Their initial goal is to pray the outdoor Stations twice a month as a family.

The trail and signposts may be new to the Andress family, but the idea of praying the Stations throughout the year isn’t. Along with their three boys and two girls, ages 9 to 1 (a sixth child is due in August), Greg and Tina are always looking for ways to walk with God between Sundays.

Their home-school curriculum includes a strong Catholic component, and the home has displayed the Stations — in the form of small pictures — for years.

“We had a small hallway, short and narrow, but it worked fine,” explains Mom Tina. “With the beautiful, old-style pictures, the children could visualize what Christ’s passion was like. We’d spend time for them to ask questions, like ‘Why is that lady wiping Jesus’ face with towel?’” It was in small and simple ways like this, she points out, that “the kids developed a great love for Christ at a very early age.”

In Greenfield, Ind., John and Rosie Kube have also made the Stations of the Cross at different times of the year at home with their four girls, ages 11 to 5. When they did, explains John, “We take turns with the kids leading the way to different icons, statues of Jesus, and religious pictures in our house, and reading a meditation. We leave it up to the kids. They sometimes dress up with veils like a nun.”

Rosie adds how the devotion benefited her mother-in-law Marie who when battling cancer relied heavily on praying the Stations every day.

“That was a comfort to her,” Rosie says. “I was so struck by it.”

The Kubes can also frequent the outdoor Stations at nearby Our Lady of the Apostles Family Center. And after a men’s conference John and a friend attended, they began a neighborhood Stations of the Cross walk during Lent.

Children get into the act helping erect each station on different families’ property, and the local Challenge girls club members like the Kubes 11-year-old evangelize door to door, inviting neighbors to join in the community Stations. Even Protestants attend.

Wherever we pray the Stations of the Cross, they’re meant to help us make a pilgrimage in spirit to main scenes of Jesus’ suffering and death. To aid all Christians who couldn’t get to the Holy Land to walk the Via Dolorosa, the Franciscans in the 17th century began erecting the Stations in churches and promoting the devotion.

“The more we do the Stations the more we’re reminded that Jesus remained faithful, no matter what happened,” says Franciscan Father Jacob-Matthew Smith of the Order of Friars Minor at the Commissariat of the Holy Land in Washington, D.C. “If we could put ourselves in his shoes, then each one of these stations have a personal meaning for the individual.”

Out of many ways of doing the Stations, one he recommends that even children can do is to relate each Station to our life. It’s a way to follow in the footsteps of Jesus.

“By so doing we join in the passion and death of Christ,” says Father Jacob-Matthew. For a child, the first fall of Jesus might be tied to the times the child has fallen off a bike while learning to ride. “Each time we’ve got to have the courage to get back in the seat and peddle again.”

Tina Andress finds the devotion to the Passion gives many lessons and helps her teach them to the children. For starters, she says, “Jesus offered his pain up for the salvation of the world. I tell the children you can offer your pain up for something. Don’t waste the opportunity. They understand. Even as parents, there are so many lessons for Greg and me to learn.”

Father Jacob-Matthew agrees. Mothers can put themselves in Mary’s position and see how they would respond to their own child in knowing God has work for them to do, maybe having to put their life on the line — mothers with a child in the armed forces, for instance.

Tina focuses on how Mary as a wife and mother teaches us to accept God’s will every day of the year.

“In my life as a mother,” she says, “I have to accept and respond with love, composure, sacrifice, prayer, and acceptance of God’s will.”

As for the youngsters, Tina affirms even if they look like they’re not listening, they still see the Stations and hear the prayers with the family.

“They can still get something out of it,” she says from much experience.

Indeed, 5-year-old Peter focuses on Jesus’ falls. “It’s sad,” he says. “It teaches me to be good.”

He likes following the Stations “because Jesus is in my heart and I love him,” Peter says, “and because it makes me feel holy.”

His 9-year-old brother Jacob looks forward to praying the Stations “because you’re walking with Jesus,” he says. “It helps you get close to God.”

Dad Greg believes that doing the Stations as a family is something the children will learn and remember.

Now that the Stations are outside too, he thinks it will be even easier to do them with the children and lead to making them together on Fridays, their spiritual goal like praying the Rosary at night.

“The children use that trail to ride their bikes,” says Greg, “so they go by the Stations and can’t help think about them.”

In church or at home, indoors or even in a small yard, there’s proof positive that for all of us the Stations of the Cross should be a year-round devotion.

The Koop family, unmasked!

(Brendan)

Up until now, there really hasn't been much in the way of pictures of our family on this blog, and that hasn't been intentional or a result of some sort of paranoia. We simply didn't have a good, recent family picture, and when you have kids this young, it means that a good family picture from just a year ago is already woefully obsolete (kind of like your cell phone). But, we have a family tradition of doing a full-out photo shoot about 4-5 months after every baby with a family friend of ours who is a photographer. We did this about a month ago, since Max was 5 months old, and just got the pictures back. We thought you might like to see a few pics of our young family.

Here's our oldest, Clara, who is 5. She is in kindergarten in our homeschool and doing fantastically well. She is by far the most responsible child in our family (even when controlling for age, just trust me), and will soon fill the role of junior mom, we are sure. She has told us, unprompted, and on multiple occasions (the latest being yesterday), that she would like to be a nun. We always tell her to continue to pray for God's will for her, and that if being a nun is what God desires for her then that's what she should be. We have found her praying alone at different times and asked what she's praying about, and she says, "I'm praying about my wish. I'm asking God to help me to be a nun." As Molly says, it makes you get a little misty sometimes.
Our next blessing is Aidan, who is 3. He has an absurd amount of energy, and an absurdly sharp mind. He is the proverbial "human tornado," capable of totally deconstructing a room within 5 minutes of unsupervision without even realizing what he just did. He is very bright though; by osmosis he has learned quite a bit just from being around Clara while she is homeschooled. Part of Clara's curriculum is memorized poetry, and Aidan simply listens in. When it's finally time for Clara to perform her latest poem in front of the family, if she stumbles or forgets a line Aidan always corrects her! Or he'll give her the first few words of the next line to get her going.
Next is Eleanor, who just turned 2 on September 27th. Eleanor has a very similar temperament to Aidan, except she is by far the most bossy of the kids. She's told Aidan or Clara to "stay on timeout!" on occasion, and frequently makes use of the phrases, "No! Mine!", "No I not!", and "No, Daddy do it!" She loves to laugh, and is our only child who has dimples in her cheeks when she smiles. She and Clara share a room currently and spend lots of sister-time together.
Maximilian, who is now 6 months old, is our easiest baby to date. All three other children, especially Eleanor, were very high-maintenance babies. Max is a very relaxed, go-with-the-flow baby, who is mostly just happy about life. He also simply needs to watch the chaos going on around him to be entertained, so there's no reason for him to be bored. He puts up with a lot of "glomming-on" by his siblings; Eleanor has had to be corrected of her habit of sitting on him recently, and Aidan is always in his face. Clara, though, has been quite helpful in holding him on occasion, or even entertaining him for a half-hour at a time. Max is our biggest baby, and will probably be our earliest crawler, which is coming up soon (yikes)!
And here's the Koop family together:
Praise the Lord for His many blessings and the gift of life!

Something to consider when designing garden areas...

(Brendan)

I came across another interesting article in the National Catholic Register on designing a monastic garden for one's home, including the spiritual significance that has been designed into such gardens through the ages. Really fascinating. I can't say I've thought much about our garden and landscape areas for our new home, mostly because I assume we may not be able to afford to put money into those areas for the first years. But I have experience maintaining large amounts of landscaping (we inherited huge amounts of landscaping from the previous owners of our current home) and I'm a do-it-yourself kind of guy for outdoor stuff. So it may be something that can be done slowly over time.

Here's a few examples of monastic cloister gardens:

And here's a book on Amazon.com that I may have to purchase (link):

Here's the article I referred to:

God in the Greenery

You don’t need a monastery to have a monastery garden

BY JOSEPH PRONECHEN

June 11-17, 2006 Issue | Posted 6/12/06 at 9:00 AM

Centuries before Americans took to gardening as a hobby, St. Benedict, the great founder of Western monasticism, made gardens important in his monasteries.

Most flowers, plants and herbs were for everyday use, but the monks would admire them just as much for their religious and symbolic meaning as for their natural beauty. Gardens became little daily catechisms.

Catholic families can take a lesson from the Benedictine monks and other monastic orders and create their own medieval-style monastery garden for prayer and meditation — not to mention teaching the faith to children and visitors.

Since many plants also reflect aspects of the Blessed Mother, a monastery garden can be a perfect companion to a Mary garden.

Imagine picking up a simple viola tricolor, which we now popularly call the Johnny Jump Up, to meditate on the Blessed Trinity or to explain how the persons of the triune Godhead come together as one.

For medieval monks, the three colors symbolized the Holy Trinity, the purple also standing for Christ’s passion — another opening for meditation.

Back then, this flower was called both the Herb Trinity and also Our Lady’s Delight to recall how Mary delighted in contemplating the Trinity revealed first to her at the Annunciation.

Breathe in the fragrance and revel in the color of the lovely lavender herb — a perfect opening to talk about how monks knew it as Mary’s Drying Plant. Legend had it that lavender received its fragrance after Mary spread Jesus’ clothes on it to dry. That can lead to shared meditation on daily duties the Holy Family also carried too.

Lavender was also called Our Lady of Purity because it was believed to preserve chastity.

Often the herbals had a combination of medicinal value, religious symbolism and culinary use for the monks. Gardens also provided flowers for the altar.

“For something we think humble and mundane,” says horticulturist Susan Moody, “people thought about and linked flowers in ways we may not link them today.”

Moody, who oversees the recreated medieval monastery gardens at The Cloisters museum in Manhattan, points out that, even with the bitter dandelion, there’s a connection to the passion of Christ.

“St. Benedict talks about living the whole day in the awareness of God’s presence,” reminds Benedictine Father Edward Glanzmann of the Monastery of the Holy Cross in downtown Chicago. “Ideally, all the time different parts of the monastery help point to that — in the field, gardens, in nature, in prayer, in church.”

Having a type of monastery garden would make a natural occasion for the parents to talk with the children about the faith, he says.

“It would provide a wonderful alternative to quiet the children and the whole family down for prayer,” adds Father Glanzmann. “It can also provide the family the same opportunity it provides the monks and retreatants here who focus their attention on the beauty and the delicacy of the garden. One would want to move from there to thoughts of God.”

The monastery’s own cloisters garden for monks and a similar one for guests are serene oases for prayer and contemplation right in downtown Chicago. There’s a statue of the Blessed Mother, roses and flowers that bloom through the year, a park bench and lawn.

Fruits of the Faith

According to Professor Martin McGann at Penn State’s Center for Medieval Studies, cloisters often had seats constructed in their surrounding wall. Monks could sit under the covered walkway and look into the garden.

He says plants with white flowers, such as the Rosa Alba, a medieval plant, were important.

Then the white and gold of the Madonna Lily symbolized Mary’s purity. After appearing in paintings of the Annunciation, it also got the name Annunciation Lily.

Although families might not use its roots to make a soothing poultice for aches as the monks did, they can surely be inspired by this lily to talk about the visit of the angel, Mary’s fiat, and Jesus’ incarnation for our salvation.

Certain staples in the garden had strong spiritual connotations to bring good and drive away evil. Chief among them was Lady’s Mantle, which reminded monks how our Blessed Mother protects us under her mantle.

Another cue worth emulating from the Monastery of the Holy Cross: a kitchen garden that feeds monks and guests most of the year.

“This helps to capitalize on what St. Benedict wrote in the Rule,” says Father Glanzmann. “Each monastery should be self-sufficient and grow its own food. Some families can do that as well.”

Like of old, flowers are interspersed with the vegetables themselves. Tulips and early spring veggies, for example, make fine companions.

Strawberries make good companions with flowers, too. And the sweet treats have religious significance. McGann says their three leaves stand for the Trinity.

Being a flower and a fruit at the same time, the strawberry symbolizes Mary’s perpetual virginity and was named Fruitful Virgin, something families can discuss while picking ripe strawberries for dessert.

Green Thumbs

According to Moody, raised beds for gardening originated in monasteries. Families can plant in herbs and vegetables common for the monks, like leeks, chives and onions in their raised beds.

Working in the garden together also put into practice Benedict’s dictum of Ora et Labora (prayer and work). Gardening was a form or prayer and contemplation mixed with labor.

Even though families don’t live in a cloister, they can adapt another medieval monastery garden, the garth garden.

Moody describes the fairly geometric layout where paths crisscross at a central fountain and divide the four squares. Early monasteries would have a fruit tree growing in each of squares and often fragrant plants as well as a lawn.

The water recalls baptism, the waters of eternal life, and the cross paths recall Christ’s death and our salvation.

This well-used medieval cloister garden is related to plans for the ninth-century St. Gall monastery in Switzerland that planned an ideal monastery after St. Benedict’s Rule.

The Middle Ages may be far back in the Church’s memory, but even modern Catholics can reap the blessings and benefits monks knew so long ago through their beloved gardens.

In such a simple way, a monastery-style garden can provide families with “the contemplative experience, which is to see and feel and live in the presence of God all around you at all the time,” says Father Glanzmann. “By and large, that’s the call of every Christian.”